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My First Friends Day Nursery

Behaviour Policy 3.17


My First Friends Day Nursery believes that children flourish best when they know how they are expected to behave. Children gain respect through interaction with caring adults who show them respect and value their individual personalities. Positive, caring and polite behaviour will be encouraged and praised at all times in an environment where children learn to respect themselves, other people and their surroundings.

Children need to have set boundaries of behaviour for their own safety and the safety of their peers. Within the nursery we aim to set these boundaries in a way which helps the child to develop a sense of the consequence of their own behaviour, both their environment and those around them. Restrictions on the child’s natural desire to explore and develop their own ideas and concepts are kept to a minimum.

It is My First Friends objective to provide a safe, secure environment where children are encouraged, not discouraged. Where mistakes are seen as opportunities for learning, where differences are respected and where children are encouraged to begin to take responsibility for their own actions.

The following principles will be implemented to manage physical environment and its impact on behaviour

·         Setting up activities in a way that minimise over- crowding e.g. four children in the water at any one time

·         Avoiding over stimulation through having too many activities set out and over-crowding the available floor space

·         The creation of pleasant surroundings e.g. attractive presentation of activities/materials, a range of colours and soft voices. The playing of loud music during free play is avoided so that children can talk quietly with one another and resolve problems before they become conflicts.

At My First Friends we aim to

Recognise the individuality of all our children and that some behaviours are normal in young children

·         Encourage self-discipline, consideration for each other, our surroundings and property

·         Encourage children to participate in a wide range of group activities to enable them to develop their social skills

·         Ensure that all staff act as a positive role models for children

·         Work in partnership with parents by communicating openly

·         Praise children and acknowledge their positive actions and attitudes, therefore ensuring that children see that we value and respect them, we do this in many ways e.g. verbally telling them, giving them a sticker or a certificate.

·         Encourage all staff working with children to accept their responsibilities for implementing the goals in this policy consistently

·         Promote non-violence and encourage children to deal with conflict peacefully

·         Provide a key person system enabling staff to build a strong and positive relationship with children and families

·         Have a named person who has overall responsibility for issues concerning behaviour

Behaviour Co-ordinator Role

Our setting behaviour co-ordinator will advise other staff on behaviour issues and will keep the nursery up to date with legislation and research and support changes to policies and procedures in the nursery. The behaviour Co-ordinator will access relevant sources of expertise where required and act as a central information source for all involved. The behaviour co-ordinator will attend regular external training events and ensure all staff attend relevant in house or external training for behaviour management.

 General rules and our expectations

·         Speak politely to each other without swearing or shouting

·         Be kind to our friends

·         Look after our toys

·         Share with our friends

·         Walk inside

When children behave in unacceptable ways:

Children will not be singled out or humiliated in any way. Staff within the nursery will re-direct the children towards alternative activities. Discussions with children will take place respecting their level of understanding and maturity

·         Staff will not raise their voices in a threatening manner

·         In any case of misbehaviour, it will always be made clear to the child or children in question, that it is the behaviour and not the child that is unwelcome

How a particular type of behaviour is handled will depend on the child’s age, level of development and the circumstances surrounding the behaviour. It may involve the child being asked to talk and think about what he/she has done. It may also include the child apologising for their actions. It may involve the child to be given time out depended on the child’s stage of development and their understanding. 

Time out strategies

·         The vocabulary used when dealing with the situation is appropriate for the age and stage of development of the children

·         Practitioners explain to the child why they are in time out

·         The amount of time a child is in time out is appropriate to the age of the child for example a minute for each year of the child’s life

·         The child supervised during time out by a member of staff at all times

·         At the end of the time out the practitioner dealing with the situation will again explain to the child why they were in time out, the child will then rejoin the rest of the group.

Parents will be informed if their child’s behaviour has been unkind to others; they will be informed this verbally and will be asked to sign an incident form if necessary.  In all cases inappropriate behaviour will be dealt with in nursery at the time. Parents may be asked to meet with staff to discuss their child’s behaviour, so that if there are any difficulties we can work together to ensure consistency between their home and the nursery. In some cases we may request additional advice and support from other professionals, such as an educational psychologist. Children need to develop strategies to enable them to be confident and self aware when engaging with peers and adults. They need to be given opportunities to release any anger or aggression more creatively.

If a child requires help to develop positive behaviour, provision will be put in place following the Framework for Intervention.

Through partnership with parents and formal observations, staff will make every effort to identify any behavioural concerns and the causes of that behaviour. From these observations and discussions a behaviour plan will be implemented

In the event where a child’s behaviour involves aggressive actions towards other children and staff, for example hitting, kicking etc the Manager should complete risk assessments, observations, ABC recordings to see if it is possible to identify any potential triggers or warning signs and to ensure the safety of the children and staff at all times.

Children will be distracted from the negative situation and supported in a different activity or environment, if necessary for their own well-being and that of others in the group.

We aim to respond to good behaviour with praise and encouraging language. The nursery as a whole uses the same rules, rewards and time out procedures to manage negative behaviours, although each room will have their own behaviour expectations that are appropriate for the age group of the child.

Parental notification

Other than for minor incidents, the parents/carers of the child who has been aggressive or destructive and the child who has been hurt should be informed of the incident by the child’s key person (or other designated person) and advised of how the situation was dealt with.

 When the behaviour is becoming a concern or more consistent the key person will address the parent about their concern and will then speak to the behaviour co-ordinator and arrange a meeting with the parent to discuss the behaviour, any strategies, plans and future needs for the child.